Straight from the horses mouth, a man who has pleasured hundreds of
women. Luke shares his pearls of pleasure to teach you the ten ways to
show your man you’re a sex siren and how to get more out of your
sexlife.
1. Use your bed only for sex and sleep.
It’s called the bedroom for a reason. Once you invite books or the
telly into the your relationship to help you wind down for the night, it
will be your sex life that will be doomed to a downward spiral.
Keep the lights fixed low and the furnishings and fabrics rich and
inviting so that as soon as you step into the room the scene is already
set either for a hot night of passion or a luxurious sleep.
2. Set time aside.
People lead such busy lives that if you leave sex to happen by chance
and when you’re both in the mood, you could quickly end up leaving it
out of your life all together.
Retain its importance by booking a slot in your schedule. And even if
you can only find a spare half hour, divide that time into, say, giving
each other a massage, foreplay and then the fullblown sex so that the
experience remains a shared and intimate one.
3. Dress the part.
Make it very clear by the way you dress what you’re after and the
treat that’s in store for your partner. Make the effort to dress sexily
and you’ll be rewarded for it. A hint of enticing lingerie under your
ordinary
clothes will set his pulse racing. When you start to undress,
ask him to help. Keep nightwear seductive. Alternate between what you
enjoy wearing and what especially works for him.
4. Enjoy yourself.
Sex should never be a chore. You’re entering the bedroom as much for
yourself as for your guy. Your own confidence is a vital contribution to
a good and varied sex life. So look forward to any session as an
opportunity for you to get as much out of it as you’ll be giving him.
Sex should always be a win:win experience.
5. Massage each other.
Massage is an excellent way of easing into sex for both of you. Most
women prefer foreplay to get them into the mood, and a lot of men can’t
perform to order. Take the opportunity to discover your guy’s favourite
erogenous zones. Keep your mind on what’s to follow and adapt the
lightness of your touch to rev him up so he’s begging for it!
6. Talk dirty.
Communication between lovers is key. Spice him up by saying what
you’d really like to do to him, and what works for you too. Tell each
other what you find sexy about them. Compliment him on how well he’s
doing and it’ll encourage him to compliment you back. It’ll turn him on
too. If he’s not hitting the spot, don’t criticise him but instead
direct him to where he definitely will!
7. Take more control.
Decide whether you plan on being dominant or submissive in your sex
life. And be prepared to switch from time to time. Guys tend to love it
when their partners turn dirty, especially if normally you’re more of a
pussycat. Telling him what you’re after will take a bit of pressure off
him too.
8. Spice up your life with sex toys
Step outside your comfort zone and experiment with bringing a range
of toys into the sex mix. A proactive woman is a real turn on for a lot
of guys, so show off your expertise, whether that’s getting him to watch
you pleasure yourself or turning the tables so you go to work on him.
And then it’s his turn. Vary your sexual positions too to add further
variety to your sex life.
9. Use your imagination.
Tell each other your fantasies. Introduce bondage; take turns to tie
up each others arms and take control. Or use blindfolds so the pleasure
comes through sensation. Take a shower together. Or shave each other.
Visit a sex shop together for ideas and equipment. Such mutual
exploration and pushing of boundaries will heighten the sexual
temperature for both of you.
10. Start dating again.
Should your sexual relationship start to flag, take a step back and
rewind to what got you going in the first place. Go out for the evening
as part of the foreplay, and wend your way back to the bedroom. Or spend
an entire Sunday afternoon getting back in touch with each other. Be
sure to set the mood and be clear from the start how the two of you will
be spending this time together.
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