What Men Want In Bed: 10 Ways To Drive Him Wild

Yes, we all know men like getting blow jobs, fantasize about threesomes, and generally just love sex and want it all the time. But let’s delve in a little deeper into what men really want in bed and wish women knew.

 1. It’s All About The Attitude
Guys want to have sex with a woman who is actually into it. Eagerness and enthusiasm go a long way. A lot of women have the attitude that just letting a guy have sex with her is some kind of gift, and guys hate that.
If you are just going through the motions, or doing it out of obligation, as a favor, or because you want something in return, that’s a major turn off.
The ultimate turn on to a guy is being with a woman who is enjoying the sex just as much as he is.

2. Make Him Feel Wanted
Men have a strong need to be sexually wanted. Just telling a man “I want you” can do all kinds of things for his ego.
Letting him know how much you enjoy sex with him also works great. Try telling him, “I love having you inside me.” If you’re too shy to say that aloud, try texting him.
If you don’t want to be that direct, you can let him catch you staring at his butt or any other part of his body that turns you on. Perhaps even touch him more than usual, especially in naughty places.
Objectify him a little, lust after him, and let him know how much he turns you on. You’ll catch him off guard and make him feel like he’s so sexy you just can’t control yourself.


3. Initiate Once In A While
Traditionally, men are the ones who initiate sex. They’re wired that way as a result of their ancient hunter ancestors.
Most men love to take charge and are cool with initiating sex most of the time. But it can get old when he has to be the one to do it every time.
Remember how guys need to feel wanted? When you never initiate sex, your man might start to feel like you’re not attracted to him.
Whisper in his ear how badly you want him inside you, or stick you hand down his pants. If you really want to rock his world, wake him with a morning BJ.
However you decide to initiate sex, it’s guaranteed to make your guy happy because for once he doesn’t have to be the one to do it.


4. Take Control
Although men love to be in charge, they like to be dominated every once in a while too. It can get boring after a while to be the one who is always in control.
It drives a guy wild when a woman grabs him, pushes him down, and has her way with him. A woman who knows what she wants and goes after it is a huge turn on.
If you tend to let your man take control all the time, try turning the tables and taking the reins once in a while. Not only will your man be in for a surprise, but he’ll know without a doubt how much you want him.


5. Confidence Is Key
Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can have. Whatever insecurities you have, remember that your man is with you because he’s attracted to you and wants to have sex with you.
A woman who can take her clothes off with confidence is much more attractive than a woman who asks her man to turn the lights off first. Men are visual creatures and get off on seeing you in all your naked glory.
If you are uncomfortable, try soft lighting that will hide any flaws you’re stressing over. But in all likelihood guys would never notice those little jiggles or that cellulite you’re so worried about. They’re just so thrilled to be there with you, naked!


6. Be Vocal
Guys love it when you let loose and get loud. A woman who can express herself in the bedroom is a huge turn on.
Whether it’s moaning and groaning or uninhibited screaming, they appreciate the feedback that whatever they’re doing is working. Guys need to know they’re doing a good job. They want to know that they’re driving you so wild that you can’t help but scream in ecstasy.
Throw in a little dirty talk and you’ll send him over the edge! Give him a filthy play-by-play or let him know what you want to do to him next.

7. Give Instructions
Every woman is different when it comes to what they like. Guys appreciate a little guidance on how to pleasure you, otherwise it’s a lot of trial and error on their part.
You are the one person who knows exactly what it takes to get you off, so help a guy out and give him some instructions to set him in the right direction. Don’t be shy about it!
Whether you guide him with sounds or words of encouragement when he’s on the right track, or flat out tell him what to do when he’s not, most guys will be thankful. If you want bonus points, get a little dirty when you’re telling him what you want him to do to you.
A woman who knows what she wants is a turn on. Plus, guys get a lot of sexual gratification from pleasing their partners. Anything you can do to help him please you is a win-win for both of you.

8. Worship Him
For men, sex is very much about feeding their egos. They want to feel desired, appreciated, and worshipped.
And this is why oral sex is so important to men. They are fixated on it so much because they want you to worship their cocks just as much as they do.
The key to giving a mind-blowing BJ is actually enjoying it. Having the power to send your man over the edge with a knee-buckling, thigh-quivering orgasm should make you feel sexy as hell.
Make eye-contact with your man and let him see how much pleasure it gives you to please him. You’ll make him feel like a rock star!

9. Be Adventurous
Men love women who are open to trying new things in the bedroom. Everyone has a different sexual appetite, so be adventurous and willing to try new flavors. It’s boring to do the same thing all the time anyways.
It’s also important not to make a guy feel bad about anything he wants to do. When you’re open to his fantasies, he’ll feel safe to express himself sexually and connected to you on a deeper level.
If you’re not comfortable with whatever it is he wants to do, that’s fine. Just don’t judge him for it or make him feel like a pervert. Negotiate and try to find something that works for both of you.

10. Don’t Fake It
Women usually mean well when they fake an orgasm. They don’t want to bruise their man’s ego so they just let him think he finished the job.
However, you’re actually giving positive reinforcement for something that didn’t work. If your man isn’t pleasing you, tell him how he can. Above all, your man really does want to please you and faking it doesn’t it allow him to be the best lover he can be.
If you know you aren’t going to come and you are ready to finish, you can just tell him. A direct instruction such as, “I want you to come now,” will let him know he’s free to let himself go without worrying about whether it’s been long enough for you.

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Men's Obsession With Lingerie

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As you're reading this, women worldwide are shopping around for lingerie to seduce their men with or just to keep themselves feeling sexy. Lingerie has been used as a sexual mechanism for years now and there's no future of its slowing down anytime soon.

why do women wear it?

Before I get into why guys salivate when a thong or something lacy comes into view, let's try to understand why women enjoy wearing these sexy items to begin with.


I'm too sexy
Believe it or not, sometimes women wear sexy lingerie under their everyday clothes to give themselves that boost of confidence they need to get on with their day. When you see a gal with an unusual skip in her step, it might be what's under her attire that's got her in a good mood.
Anticipation
Dressing down for an evening of lovemaking makes women feel sensual. The idea of your undressing her slowly or better yet, watching her prance around the room or dance for you in her sexy attire, will have both of you anticipating what's going to happen once the lace and satin come off.

why guys love lingerie

Some guys don't see the point in paying hundreds of dollars for something that is going to come off in approximately 30 seconds, but others appreciate every thread on a woman's body. Lingerie need not be an acquired taste. For me?
Everyone loves to feel special and when she buys that sexy item especially for you, you'll feel like a million bucks simply because she wants to impress you. This is a private showing and only you're invited to the unveiling.
No grandmas
It's hard for women to keep up that hot mama look on a daily basis, so lingerie separates those ordinary days from the extraordinary days. When you see her donning that lacy teddy, she definitely wants you to take notice. And of course, you can do better than that.
Who are you?
Sometimes lingerie can help her (and you) escape from the treacherous monotony that is everyday life. She can put on a kinky latex number and the two of you can play "Where oh where is the Naughty Housewife?"
What are the top 5 lingerie items that men love?

 Diversification
Sometimes a new outfit can bring out a different trait in a person and lingerie can have that desired effect easily. While her negligee might utter, "Make love to me," her garter belts might be shouting, "Ravish me!"

Media
Of course, watching those Angels in the Victoria's Secret commercials doesn't hurt in feeding men these fantasies about what lingerie can get them. In effect, you rush to your nearest shop and load up on items that'll make her want to seduce you into oblivion.

what men prefer

So what do you guys love seeing your women in? Well, here are the top 5 items that AskMen readers sent in without hesitation. And in case there was any doubt, all of these include a pair of very high heels that stay on even after the clothes come off. 5- Chemise Watching her walk around in a plain silky mini-dress-like piece with nothing underneath made many guys feel like making love.
4- Babydoll This little number perks up her breasts and has a slit down the middle starting underneath her chest, and works its way down to her thighs. Oh, and it comes with great bikini underwear as well.
3- Teddy Because it looks like a bathing suit, only a lot sexier, the slit up the butt and the fact that it unbuttons from the crotch had many a man salivating hungrily to take it off.
2- Camisole & Thong Sometimes simplicity works best and guys like seeing their women dressed up with a hint of innocence in a tank top and sexy underwear.
1- Push-up Bra, G-string & Garter Belts Was there any doubt? Garter belts have been used to seduce men for years and things aren't about to change anytime soon. If your woman hasn't seduced you with them yet, perhaps it's time the two of you invested in a couple of pairs.

is it all in your head?

Is this obsession with lingerie simply a ploy thought up by retailers to lure men and women into the notion that sexy undergarments are a necessary part of a good love life? Or is lingerie popular because men are visual creatures who get excited when they see a woman dressed in seductive underwear? Perhaps it's a little bit of both, but there's no doubt that lingerie does have its positive effects on both men and women. Men love the element of surprise when their women get undressed, and there's this whole other private outfit worn with them in mind and for which they're the inspiration.
And women love lingerie because it makes them feel not only sexy, but feminine. So the next time she removes her business attire and she's wearing a sexy teddy, take a moment to appreciate her body and what's wrapped around it before you take control and show her what kind of effect she has on you and your manhood.

10 Sex Moves She Craves

More than 1,000 women took a poll and confessed the top things they wish guys would do in bed. Behold, the 10 most popular, ranked in order. To make sure you satisfy her desires, we included tips on exactly how to pull off every last move...right down to number one.

 10. Give her breasts more attention
Lots of guys pamper a woman's breasts during foreplay but forget about them during the main event, which is a shame because the extra stimulation can lead to a bigger orgasm for her. Plus, it's important to pay attention to more than just her nipples, since her entire breast is packed with nerves, especially the underside. When she's on top, use your fingertips to draw wide, slow circles, starting around the perimeter of one breast and spiraling in until you're just about at her nipple. Then use your hand to cup and lift the underside of her breast, and lick around her nipple before covering it entirely with your mouth and sucking gently.
9. Give her a G-Spot orgasm
This much-talked-about area is located about 2 inches inside her vaginal canal on the front wall. Some docs say it's spongy and the size of a dime, but it can be hard to feel, so just stimulate that general area during sex and you may give her a more intense orgasm. To hit it with your penis, try modified doggie-style. Instead of having her keep her arms straight with her palms on the bed, ask her to lower herself onto her elbows. Holding her hips for balance, thrust slowly at first and then up the intensity. With each stroke, your penis will rub against the front wall of her vagina, stimulating that special spot. 

8. Surprise her with a quickie
When you jump her out of the blue, it makes her feel like she's so irresistible that you simply can't wait to have her. Right when she gets home, pull her in for a deep kiss to get her going. Relieve her of any bags she's carrying and lead her to the couch, bed, or kitchen table, where you will have already stashed a bottle of lube nearby. Don't totally undress her; just lift up her skirt or pull down her pants. Then use your lubed fingers to massage her clitoris while whispering how hot she is in her ear. The more aroused you are, the faster she'll get into it. (Of course, there will be times when she's not game. If that happens, let it go and try another night.)
7. Gently pull her hair
There are thousands of nerves in the scalp, and when she's aroused, they're more sensitive, so pulling on her tresses feels extra stimulating. But there's a catch: If you do it while you're having sex with her from behind, it'll make her feel like you're treating her like a hooker. Instead, while she's on top, run your hand through her hair, grab a handful of strands close to her scalp, and give it a little pull. This works especially well when you're having intense, passionate sex, because grabbing her anywhere, especially somewhere sensitive, adds to the feeling that she's being ravished.
6. Talk dirty to her
Women are verbal creaturesand our love of words extends to the bedroom. Unfortunately, most of what you may have heard guys say in porn is all wrong (Ask "Who's your daddy" and you just might get a slap across the face). What your partner does want to hear are phrases that let her know how turned on you are, how much you love her body, and how good you want to make her feel (see this month's CFG Sex Map for more tips). And even more important than what you say is the way you say it—when she can hear the burning lust in your voice, her thighs pretty much catch on fire.
5. Nibble on her neck
The skin that stretches from underneath her ear to her collarbone is very thin, making it supersensitive to touch. Start out by using your tongue to lick from her ear down to where her neck and shoulders meet. Then blow along the trail you just left. The warmth of your tongue coupled with the coolness of your breath will shoot tingles all over her body. After that, get a little more aggressive, and lightly nip the bottom of her neck (the skin is slightly thicker here and can take more pressure). You should suck on her neck too, but for just a second and not hard enough to leave a markhickeys are so high school.

4. Bring her to climax with oral
A luxurious oral-sex session allows her to kick back and enjoy being spoiled. (Sound familiar?) But different techniques may feel more or less pleasurable to her on different days. To figure out what's going to work best for her each time, be sure to use a variety of moves. Try licking softly, sucking, and using a firm, pointed tongue and then a wide, soft one, and take note of which she responds to the most enthusiastically. When you sense that she's about to orgasm—her body will tense up and she'll start breathing more quickly—go back to the move that elicited the biggest moans, and continue doing it until she climaxes.
3. Touch her hot spot midaction
Most women can't orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation, which is probably why so many want more of it! Whenever your hand can reach her clitoris (girl-on-top and spooning from behind are two great positions for access), you should rub her hot spot. Your touches should be slow and soft in the beginning, progressing to harder and quicker. When it comes to technique, every woman is different, so you have to experiment: Try one finger pressed directly on her clitoris, three fingers over the entire area, or the heel of your hand on her pubic mound—her moans will tell you when you have it right.
2. Kiss her during sex
If you're like most guys, once intercourse starts, you probably stop kissing her. That's a bad move, since kissing makes sex feel more intimate for her, which is crucial to female pleasure. Pick a position that allows you to be face-to-face, like missionary, or have her sit on your lap, then mix up your smooches so they mirror the mood of the sex you're having. If you're going at it like gangbusters, pull her in for a deep, tongue-filled kiss—try sucking on her bottom lip and pressing your lips firmly against hers. When things are slow and romantic, go with a more sensual kiss.
1. Be more aggressive
The number one thing women want is for you to be more aggressive in bed. That means handling her body with strength and confidence, which can be insanely erotic for her. And it doesn't require a lot of work or advanced skills on your part. In fact, doing just one take-charge thing can spike her arousal level. A few to try: In missionary, take her wrists and hold them above her head, pinned to the mattress. When she's on top, hold her hips and push/pull them back and forth, so her clitoris grinds against your pubic bone. And when you want to change positions, don't do it slowly or politely—grab her and put her where you want her.

Top 10 Qualities Men Are Secretly Looking for In Women

What makes the perfect girlfriend?

Contrary to what you might think, most guys aren't looking for a supermodel. They're just looking for their perfect match: a woman who's down-to-earth, sweet and sensitive to his needs.

Here are ten attractive traits that every man keeps in mind when deciding if the woman (i.e. you) sitting across the dinner table from him at that first date is girlfriend material.

1. Confidence
Take it from the guys, nothing is sexier than a woman who's comfortable in her own skin. If you're guilty of meekly asking lines like: "Does this skirt make my thighs look fat?" …stop asking. If you're constantly needing his reassurance that you're beautiful, he may start asking questions himself.

2. Intelligence
Acting like a bimbo loses its novelty to men after high school. What men want in a girlfriend is a woman who can stand as his equal. So be the smart, savvy woman you are! To him, it's a total turn-on.

3. Unmaterialistic
Yes, he wants to be your knight in shining armor. And yes, he wants to treat you like the princess you are … but that doesn't give you license to act like one. Allow him the luxury of treating you with romantic dinners and surprise baubles without having to demand them of him. He'll be relieved that he doesn't have to try so hard and surprisingly, this will inspire him to rise to the occasion when he doesn't have to dedicate his whole paycheck to lavish tokens of his love for you.

4. Spontaneity
One of the first things to go in a relationship is the spontaneity. You get stuck in your Friday night dinner dates and you lose that spark you had when you first started dating each other. Don't lose it! Men love a woman who can do things spur-of-the-moment.

5. Laid-Back
What's one of the best things you can do for your relationship with him? Relax. Just relax. When you come home from a long, hard day at work and see those dishes piling up in the sink, we know you have the urge to lash out at him. Instead, try to let it go for the night. No man likes a nag and every man likes a woman who can let her hair down and doesn't sweat the small stuff. We're not saying to just kick back and bro out with him, but a relationship is solid when you're able to relax with each other.

6. Playfulness
Guys like a girl who laugh at their jokes, but isn't mindless and isn't always serious about everything. Just as we mentioned that men like a woman who can forgo nagging him about the dishes, they like a woman who can joke about the dishes too. Biting remarks and snappy comebacks are just the witty repartee to keep the spark between you in your relationship. And hey, isn't laughter the best aphrodisiac?

7. Sensuality
We've already mentioned before that it's not all about your looks (albeit, that's a good motivator for some men) — it's more about an air of sexiness and confidence that will draw his eyes to you when you enter the room. Embrace your femininity. Ditch the sweatpants for date night and take the extra ten minutes to pull the LBD from the back of your closet. You shouldn't feel pressured to strut around the bedroom in lingerie and high heels like a Victoria's Secret angel every night, but you should feel comfortable in your own sexuality…and expressing that sensually to your man.

8. Honesty
If he can't trust you — how can he ever see you as his girlfriend … and eventual spouse? Keep things open and honest in your relationship. A little white lie over flirty texts with an old guy friend from college can spiral out of control very quickly into a full-blown fight … and breakup.

9. Independence
Dating a driven, passionate woman? So hot. Babysitting a stage five clinger? Not so much. No man wants a girlfriend they have to reassuringly text, call or visit every five minutes. Give him his poker night with the boys. Let him go golfing on a weekend. Learn to give your guy his space — or he may break up with you to get it.

10. Supportive
As clichéd as it is, some men want to be caretakers … but even the strongest of men want a soft place to fall. He wants to know that you'll support him and stand by him in his life choices, whether it's changing careers or moving to a new city. Show your support in small gestures with a quick "I love you" text when he heads off for his morning commute and listen to him after a hard day's work. Be supportive — but not suffocating. The last thing you want is to remind him too much of his mother.

Five easy ways to please your man

We know you wanna make your guy happy as much as you can, so we got experts to dish advice on how you can please your man.
These tips are so simple, you'll be able to execute ASAP and soon your dude will be calling you the best girlfriend ever.

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Leave Him Alone
Not all the time. But when he first comes home from work, or when he's really stressed out about something, sometimes what a guy wants most is to be quiet and by himself for a little while. When a guy's lady recognizes this and gives him that space, he notices and is grateful.

Let Him Be in Charge
Let's face it. Guys like to feel like they're in control. Try letting go of your need to be right (even when you probably are). Sometimes you just need to let him pick the route, the restaurant, or the movie without interjecting your "better" idea. This will make him feel like he's in charge and that you trust him.

Give Him A Sexy Surprise
Maybe putting on lingerie isn't your thing. No sweat, guys don't need that all the time. But try going outside your comfort zone every now and then. Meet him out for a drink in an especially little LBD, or surprise him with some sexy underwear. He'll know you're doing it just for him.

Lend Him an Ear
It's tempting to take control when your dude is in a rut, but pause for a second. Try not to solve his problem or tell him how you would do it if you were in his shoes. Let him talk, listen, and be supportive. Jumping in to fix rips his masculinity away, and puts you, instead, in that role. What he wants is some feminine nurturing, so listen, give him a hug, and let him vent.

Make It Clear You Want Him
You don't need to be overtly sexual to let your guy know you want him right then and there. Try subtle things like momentarily slipping your hand into his crotch during the drive home, or at a movie, or under the table at dinner. Him knowing how sexually attracted you are to him will please him like no oth

Beauty Blender

Ladies put don the foundation brush , forget using your fingertips and opt for the Beauty Blender sponge!
It si designed to be used in a dabbing motion.  It gives you the effect of actual skin texture, so it amazingly looks like you’re not wearing anything. The rounded egg shape allows you blend make up without leaving behind a single streak.

Application method

• Run the sponge under running water until it expands. Squeeze out the excess water. Wrap a towel around the sponge and give it another squeeze. The sponge should still be slightly damp.
• Put some foundation on the back of your hand.
• Dip the round end onto your foundation and lightly stipple/bounce on areas around your face such as the cheek, forehead and chin area.
• Dip the pointy end onto your foundation and lightly stipple/bounce for hard to reach areas such as the areas around your eyes, lips and nose.
• The sponge can be used dry but you’ll tend to absorb more product. I prefer to have my sponge wet as directed.

  I love this blender! It gives me a beautiful airbrushed foundation application. I'm very happy with this purchase, and I recommend this blender for a seamless finish!

The ‘Little Black Set’

“Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.” Coco Chanel

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We can’t all afford Chanel, but we definitely can afford elegance.
Every woman has a little black dress in her closet, that she can dress up or down with accessories.The simple truth is, black is sexy, classy and goes with every other colour.
Well the same should go with our lingerie drawer.

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The little black set is a classic that can be comfortably worn throughout the day at the office, and reveal your sexy self in the evening.
Take a little black dress; add some nice jewellery and you’ve got a killer outfit.
Take a little black set; add some of our suspenders and you may provoke a few strokes.